Setbacks can be frustrating, but your child needs encouragement and reassurance from you. Try to remember that this is your child's task, not your own.





>>  STAY CALM. Toilet training may take 3 months. It may take more.

>>  Remind your child to go potty during the day. Especially first thing in the morning and after naps.

>>  PRAISE YOUR CHILD when he or she uses the potty. 

>>  Treat accidents casually. Avoid punishing, scolding or shaming.

>>  Daytime control usually comes first. It may take your child longer to stay dry through the night.

      It’s OK to wear a nighttime pull-up. 

>>  Boys generally take longer to be trained than do girls.

>>  If your child is a girl, teach her to wipe from front to back to avoid infections.  

Remember that setbacks are to be expected, not to be seen as a failure or regression, but as a temporary step back. Setbacks are normal and may occur when your child feels too much pressure.

>>  Ask your child to withhold urine a little during

      the day to gain better control. 

>>  With your child's permission, wake him or her

      during the night to use the bathroom. 

>>  A nighttime potty chair kept by the bed can make

      it more convenient for your child when he or

      she wakesduring the night. 

>>  If your child is still consistently wetting the bed 1

      year after  age 7 years, consult your pediatrician

      or health care professional.


Nighttime or nap time dryness may occur at the same time as daytime dryness, although it may not occur until a year or so later. Aside from taking your child to the toilet before going to sleep, here are some other tips to help the child stay dry through the night: 


>> Put a potty chair in the bathroom and let your child get used to it. Get a potty chair. Many children feel more secure on a potty chair than on a toilet  because when they sit, their feet are securely on the floor and they are not afraid of falling off or in.  

>> Start reading potty books together. You may also want to make full use of those props—the books or videos or dolls that drink and wet. 

>>  If your child is afraid of the potty chair, DON’T PRESSURE HIM OR HER TO USE IT. Put toilet training aside for 1 or 2 months, and give your child time to get used to the idea of the potty chair and to be comfortable with it. 

>>  Let your child first sit on the potty chair fully clothed once a day as a routine. Also, let your child leave the potty chair at any time, and never force your child to spend time sitting on it. 

>>  Keep your child in loose, easy-to-remove clothing. Help your child master the dressing and undressing needed to sit on the potty chair. Once the child is comfortably sitting on the potty chair with clothes on, then try it with clothes off.  

>>  When your child is using the potty chair successfully several times a day, he or she may be ready for underwear for part of the day. Because diapers can be very reassuring, do not rush your child out of diapers. 

>>  Sit by your child the first few times until he or she is used to going to the bathroom alone.

      >>  Toilet training includes discussing, undressing,                     going, wiping, dressing, flushing, and hand-                           washing. Remember to reinforce your child's

             success at each step. 

       >> There are many steps to the toilet training

            process. The more ready the child is when you

            begin, the more quickly the toilet training

            process will go.  

       >> Initial success relies on your child understanding

            the use of the toilet, not mastering the process.


A lot of times parents are unaware and have unrealistic expectations of a child at different developmental ages. 

       >>  Your child runs into the corner and squats to go in his diaper.

       >>  Your child wakes up dry after a nap.

       >>  Your child’s diaper stays dry longer. 

       >>  Your child tugs on her wet or messy diaper.

Here are some hints your child may be ready to begin potty training.

TIMING IS IMPORTANT!Toilet training should NOT be started when the child is feeling ill or when the child is experiencing any major life changes such as moving, new siblings, new school, or new child-care situation. 


If your child is feeling too pressured to toilet train or if the process is too stressful, he or she may begin to withhold urine or stool. Withholding can be the result of too much pressure or can be caused by constipation (hard and painful stools). 


Try not to feel pressured to toilet train your child. If you are feeling pressured to train your child because of caregiver considerations or family members' views, your anxiety about toilet training can create anxiety in your child. 

>>  Consider your child's moods and the time of day your child is most approachable. Plan your approach based on when your child is most cooperative.

>>  If your child is generally shy and withdrawn, he or she may need additional support and encouragement.

>>  Work with your child's attention span. Plan for distractions that will keep him or her comfortable on the potty chair. For example, reading a story to your child may help keep him or her interested. 

>>  Consider your child's frustration level, and be ready to encourage and reassure him or her at each step.

According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, child abuse occurs during potty training more than any other time in a child's life. Experts say transition periods in a child's life, like potty training or starting school, can be challenging for both children and parents. 


Most experts agree that the one key to potty training success is to let your child decide when he or she is ready. Most kids are ready between the ages of 2 and 3, but not all of them. 


Each child has his or her own style of behavior, which is called temperament. In planning your approach to toilet training, it is important to consider your child's temperament.